The Worrier Warrior: 5 Brain Training Tools to Manage Stress

body-keeps-the-score-book.jpgIn the mental health field we’ve come a long way in our understanding of the brain and how brain functioning produces the symptoms we call anxiety and depression.  Dr. Van Der Kolk in his book The Body Keeps the Score, gives an excellent description of how far we've come in the last 40 years.  Back then we approached anxiety and depression as ‘mind’ problems, but now, thanks to medical and technological advances in brain imaging, we’ve come to understand how these conditions are created and maintained in large part by habituated neural patterns of the brain.  Fortunately the brain is plastic and can re-wire itself but to know what tools work, and why they work.  Here's Frank's story of what helped heal his habitual stress response, as well as tools for all of us to re-wire the stress response.

Your habitually trained Brain

Frank walked into my office and said, “I was in therapy for 15 years, know my ‘issues’ inside and out, but I’m still taking an anti-depressant and an anti-anxiety med when I have to do any major presentation at the firm. It’s like my baseline is off. I’m always hyper-vigilant—looking out for the next danger, working very hard to stay on top of everything. It’s great for being a lawyer but when I get into bed at night, my mind is racing and I feel this sinking feeling. Still, after all this therapy. What can you do for me?”

Frank doesn’t have a motivation problem, or a lack of insight problem. Frank has a brain problem.

Frank had come into my office after having done research into the benefits of neurofeedback for depression and anxiety. I see clients like Frank everyday and I call them my “Worrier Warriors”. Their nervous systems are in a state of ‘activation’ where the flight/fight/freeze brain is always in go-mode. And he’s right—it serves a law firm well. These brains are habitually trained to be on the watch for danger. Add a good analytic mind to that mix and you’ll have a highly successful lawyer who protects his or her clients well, but at a high cost of health and happiness.

We all know we are ‘creatures of habit’ but what that really means is that the brain is prone to habituated rather than fresh responses. The brain functions to be most efficient and effective in use of its energy with the goal to protect and maintain the body's health and safety. The flaw in this system design is that the brain becomes efficient by using cues to approximate the present situation and then uses an old response pattern, which leads to misperceptions of the present moment and less than appropriate responses. We’ve all seen someone “lose it” and respond with an angry outburst when the situation warranted concern or a firm voice.

A dramatic and sad illustration of this principle is the war vet who comes home with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) from his years of service. As a soldier he has been trained to respond to danger with ‘fight’ response. But now he is home from the war and is walking down his hometown street when a car backfires. The brain is habituated to “loud sound equals danger” and the vet’s brain goes into fight mode—yelling, pushes someone or becomes highly irritable and later starts a fight with a loved one.

An important piece of information to know about the part of the brain that operates the fight and flight response: it does not take orders from anyone. It is a part of the brain that needs to be able to respond in milliseconds, so it doesn’t take in information from other, more rational and analytic parts of the pre-frontal cortex brain. As a result you could say to yourself, “I really shouldn’t get angry and fly off the handle.” But the part of the brain that decides that action, acts without input from our rational, willful self. It takes in sensory input and then makes a snap decision.

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Why are We so prone to anger outbursts, Fear and Worry?

If we are prone to anger, worry or fear, or swinging between the two then our brains are habituated to the flight/flight/freeze response (anger/anxiety/depression) response.  For whatever reason, and their could be many, we experienced a threat or threats at some point in our lives that were significant enough to habituate the brain to being in this activation mode.

A quick way to find out if you are is to ask yourself this question, and answer quickly without thinking: Is the world a safe place? If the answer is ‘no’ then chances are your brain is habituated to thinking that you are in danger when you aren’t. The upside is that this habit makes you a perfect candidate for work where you always have to be thinking about what the risks are in any situation, such as a lawyer, an ENT or an emergency room doctor. Your brain is habituated to perceive risk.

what to do about this habituated brain?  - 5 Brain Training Tips to rewire Brain

mindfulness-breathing-max-van-den-oetelaar-646474-unsplash-198261-edited1. Breathe

Seriously. The breath, slow and deep breathing are ways we can “tell” the brain that we are safe and it can go into a state of relaxation and regulation. Slow deep breathing for 5 minutes where you work your way up to counting to 5 on the inhalation and 5 on the exhalation will do wonders to communicate to the brain to come out of flight/flight and into calm awareness (the state of a regulated and balanced brain.) See also: Mindfulness Meditation – Does It Work? 

2. Understand

Help yourself by having a good and clear conceptual understanding that your anxiety and depression and anger outbursts are a brain over-reacting, not an accurate assessment of the present moment’s situation. Your brain is reading a newspaper that’s 20 years old and acting as if it’s the here-and-now news. Read Also: Your Brain On Stress - Learn how to Identify Stress. Your Health Depends on it!

walk-in-the-park-ryan-park-1228668-unsplash3. Get exercise

I recently had a neurologist tell me that if the positive effects of exercise (increased heart rate 30 mins 5 times a week) were a drug, it would be considered a “miracle drug” and would generate billions of dollars a year in revenue. 

4. Get enough sleep

Studies are now coming out showing the detrimental effects of chronic sleep deprivation—5 hours a night or less—on the development of chronic conditions. Learn how to improve your sleep habits with neurofeedback

neuroptimal-neurofeedback-at-home-session-900px-neurofeedbacktrainingco5. Train Your Brain With Neurofeedback

Neurofeedback trains the brain to optimize its functioning through allowing the brain to ‘see’ its unhelpful response patterns. And the brain learns to use the present moment to decide it’s next action rather than using those old habitual response patterns. As a result the trained brain sleeps better, is calmer, is better able to focus, and is more cheerful. And as one client said, “I have the same problems, they just don’t get to me anymore.” Read also a success story on how neurofeedback helped Elizabeth  

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We have offices in New York City, NY (main location), Pasadena, California, Portland, Oregon and Boulder, ColoradoAt our NYC location one can schedule a combined neurofeedback and talk therapy. We also provide neurofeedback home unit rentals which provides same training as in-office sessions but at a reduced cost per session. Click here to learn more about our packages and plans. We ship anywhere in U.S. and Canada.  Here's what one of our clients said about his experience: 

Thanks Neurofeedback NY!  After trying NeurOptimal with a therapist I found out that I could rent a machine and do it on my own at a lower cost.  I rented it for a month, saw such great improvement that I decided to buy a unit.  Natalie and her team were very knowledgable and made the process very easy.

The benefits to me have been reduced worry and stress and increased focus, that is, I feel that I'm more present as a result of neurofeedback training.  It seems to me that it complements and supports meditation.

– D., California



Natalie N. Baker, LMHC, is the founder of Neurofeedack Training Co. and certified Advanced NeurOptimal® Neurofeedback trainer. She holds a Master's Degree in Counseling and has been working as a psychotherapist since 1999. As a practicing Buddhist since 1991 and a meditation teacher since 1998, Natalie combines her Western and Eastern approaches to bring a broader perspective to mental health and wellness. In 2010 she added neurofeedback therapy to her practice as additional support for optimizing wellness.

Expertise: Psychotherapy, Neurofeedback & NeurOptimal Trainer Representative. 

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