Neurofeedback training with the NeurOptimal neurofeedback system can promote a new level of calm and ease your stress levels and we see the best results if a child is training that also the whole family are training. Setting a routine and creating new healthy habits can be challenging. Neurofeedback Trainer Coach and Family Therapist, Alison Pepper LCSW, shares some tips on how to optimize your neurofeedback training at home.
How to get Best Results When Training With Kids
1. Train Together – The More The Merrier!
If you live together also train your brains together! This can do a few things; training multiple people in the home at the same time help regulate all your nervous systems together. If a parent is feeling calmer and more flexible, the child too will feel that from the parent and from their own feedback. It also helps minimize any stigma around the training for a child. It can also be fun for the child to help Mom or Dad put on the sensors just like you help your child. This builds extra bonding time around helping each other and the experience of neurofeedback.
Why Do We Recommend That A Parent Also Train? Your child’s brain/central nervous system (CNS), is learning to assess current needs from gathering information in the here-and-now, rather than using habitual information/neural pathways. A major shift through training is your child’s brain learns to be in a state called regulation: calm, alert, and open to the here-and-now, and only become active only when there is an event that needs action.
This process of learning is sped up when a primary caregiver’s brain is also learning the same process of being regulated–calm, centered, open. Why? Because just like you see in pack animal behaviors, children’s brains tune themselves to their caregivers’ brains. If the parent is nervous and worry a lot, the child will also become a "worrier". If the parent becomes calm the child’s brain will also shift, like tuning forks resonating with each other. A wonderful example of this process of attunement is to watch The Dog Whisperer on National Geographic. In the episodes you will see examples of how Cesar (the alpha dog trainer) who is “calm assertive”, i.e. has a regulated CNS, works with an agitated/fearful/aggressive dog through the natural attunement process where a beta dog’s CNS aligns with an alpha’s CNS.
Here's a review from a client who rented for two months and trained together as a family:
I'm very glad to have found this tool. After two months of training I found there was a background of calm in our household. My 12 year old child wasn't always happy to sit still and do the sessions - (he was training the most of us, about 2-3 times per week), but as he gradually noticed his response to difficult emotional situations around his friends or school work he ended up wanting to do the sessions, so we rented for another month. As a working mother, I too found it was helpful and noticed I didn't become as triggered in those situations I previously would be triggered by. I highly recommend renting and train with the whole family!
2. Commit to The Training and Train Regularly
Who's the boss? Parents are! In my opinion, parents are doing their best for their child and family and also know their child better than anyone. It's important to give kids options and choices but if you have determined that your child could benefit from neurofeedback, then the most important thing is to make sure your child trains and trains regularly throughout your rental. You would be surprised how many times we hear "My child didn't want to train today" or "He just doesn't like it". Let's be honest, children don't like a lot of things such as for example broccoli, homework, or dentist visits but they still need to experience those things. The same goes for neurofeedback training! The only way to find out if this will work for you and your family is if you commit to doing it. To get the support around this topic as a parent, I recommend reading these two books; 123 magic by Dr. Tom Phelan and How to Talk so Kids Will Listen by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish.
Watch also this YouTube Video from an interview with the authors. Classic parenting tips for all ages!!
3. Find the right time for the Neurofeedback Training
Scheduling can always be a challenge for a family. Depending on how your child feels during and after session you may want to consider when they train. Many adults and children feel relaxed or even sleepy during a session so before bedtime could be the best time. If your child falls asleep no problem, simply unhook them and clean them up in the morning. It's great to check in with your child about when they want to train (before school, after school, before bed, on the weekends) but remember you're the boss so in the end what works for you as the parent is going to work best for the child.
4. Eat brain foods
Most of the brain consists of fat. Did you know that 60 percent of your brain is made up of DHA – an omega-3 fat that you get from algae and fish? Salmon, eggs, rich in omega-3s, probiotics, and seaweed snacks are great for the brain! Your brain is the fattest organ in your body. That being the case, it should come as no surprise that our brains need fat to work correctly. For more ideas about what foods to eat and to avoid check out this other blog post here.
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Written by Alison Pepper, LCSW & NeurOptimal Neurofeedback Trainer
Alison Pepper is a Certified NeurOptimal Neurofeedback Trainer and a Family Therapist in NYC She's a bilingual therapist for over five years (fluent in both English and Spanish), SIFI certified, and a meditation teacher. She recently became a Certified NeurOptimal Neurofeedback Trainer at Neurofeedback Training Co. in New York City.
“I believe all people have the tools to heal ourselves; grow, learn, and reach our full potential. No matter what your age or life circumstances therapy is a safe space to do that work.”